It has been well-documented in this blog how much The Lady F and myself love our daughter Lafawnda (for any new readers, no, we didn't name her that any more than my parents named me The Old Fossil). We are so please with both of our children that the buttons just fly off our vests. We love and support life. We are way pro-life. We love our pets, we love our kids, we love our parents, we love ...
But, life is not without serious questions and complications. When the Lady was pregnant with Lafawnda, one of the tests showed her Alpha Fetal Protein out of normal bounds. I am certainly no expert, nor do I wish to really get into research on this, but it raised the possibility of complications for the fetus and it required an amneosentesis.
We were informed of the things that might be found out, gender being one of them. The answer we gave them was an easy one for us, for we had no gender preference for the child and wished to find out at the moment of birth.
A second thing that might be found out was a bit more difficult, for it was possible this was a result of the child having Downs Syndrome. We decided between ourselves immediately that we would carry the child to term if this was the case and would raise it with love.
But, the third thing that was discovered in the Lady F was more troubling by far. Her own mother was left on a church doorstep and we have no familial history for her at all. It turns out that my wife was found out to be a Tay Sachs carrier. Now, for clarity, this was found out at the same time as the AFP test, but was not part of it, it was totally separate. The decisions were all before us at the same time, though.
Tay Sachs is an extremely cruel and painful disease that causes the onset of mental and physical deterioration beginning at the age of 6 months and continuing until the age of 4 years or so, the time of the child's death. These children never have a chance at either survival or of life quality until their painful deaths.
I had to be tested to see if I was a carrier also, for it is a recessive trait that is conferred by both parents. And, before I was tested, we made our decision, that if I was shown to be a carrier and if we could determine that the trait was passed along from both of us, we would abort the fetus. Fortunately, it never came to that, for I am not a carrier.
I bring this up because we have a debate going on in this country about whether abortion in this country should be legal. In Arizona right now, a bill is being debated that might turn it into state law that aborting a fetus from a rape is - and I find this insane - tampering with evidence! Wow.
The effort is to make it absolutely impossible under all circumstances to have a legal abortion. As we know from past history, many people do abort for reasons I would never choose, but I have shown you one situation under which I would choose it. And I realize that many zealous factions from the religious right would have that choice taken away from my wife and myself. I strongly disagree.
I am not a fan of abortion. I hate the very idea. But, there are times that I feel it is the most acceptable option. I also feel that the only one who can ultimately make the choice is the mother and that the choice should fall to no other.
I also agree with Bill Clinton. Abortion should be legal, but it should be rare.